Prison Baby: A Memoir



[Reading] ➸ Prison Baby: A Memoir ➮ Deborah Jiang Stein – E17streets4all.co.uk A deeply personal and inspiring memoir recounting one woman s struggles beginning with her birth in prison to find self acceptance Prison Baby is a revised and substantially expanded version of Debora A deeply personal and inspiring memoir recounting one woman s struggles beginning with her birth in prison to find self acceptance Prison Baby is a revised and substantially expanded version of Deborah Jiang Stein s self published memoir, Even Tough Girls Wear Tutus Even at twelve years old, Deborah, the adopted daughter Prison Baby: PDF/EPUB ² of a progressive Jewish couple in Seattle, felt like an outsider Her mixed Asian features set her apart from her white, well intentioned parents who evaded questions about her past But when she discovered a letter revealing the truth of her prison birth to a heroin addicted mother and that she spent the first year of life in prison Deborah spiraled into emotional lockdown For years she turned to drugs, violence, and crime as a way to cope with her grief Ultimately, Deborah overcame the stigma, shame, and secrecy of her birth, and found peace by helping others proving that redemption and acceptance are possible even from the darkest corners.Prison Baby: A Memoir

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    If you re looking for a CBR and CBZ reader when she discovered a letter revealing the truth of her prison birth to a heroin addicted mother and that she spent the first year of life in prison Deborah spiraled into emotional lockdown For years she turned to drugs, violence, and crime as a way to cope with her grief Ultimately, Deborah overcame the stigma, shame, and secrecy of her birth, and found peace by helping others proving that redemption and acceptance are possible even from the darkest corners."/>
  • Paperback
  • 176 pages
  • Prison Baby: A Memoir
  • Deborah Jiang Stein
  • 23 August 2019
  • 0807098108

10 thoughts on “Prison Baby: A Memoir

  1. says:

    Reading this memoir I felt charmed, saddened, angered and charmed all over again It is not meant to be self help and Deborah Jiang Stein resists being some kind of poster child for those born in prison or other dire circumstances But still, when I finished it I wanted to do something better with my life and time While I cannot relate to being born in a prison or transracially adopted, I feel connected to her story in other ways as a recovering alcoholic who has it in the genes as the sister Reading this memoir I felt charmed, saddened, angered and charmed all over again It is not meant to be self help and Deborah Jiang Stein resists being some kind of poster child for those born in prison or other dire circumstances But still, when I finished it I wanted to do something better with my life and time While I cannot relate to being born in a prison or transracially adopted, I feel connected to her story in other ways as a recovering alcoholic who has it in the genes as the sister of an transracially adopted brother who struggled, growing up with attachment, identity, addiction and most compellingly, as the mother of transracially adopted children.This book should be read by those who think incarceration is the right response to addiction OK it might not change their minds It also should be read by those who think love and privilege is enough for a child removed from their parents but it probably won t change their minds, either But those of us who are already in the choir can feel stronger for reading of Deborah s survival and recovery It also has a bit of intrigue and suspense but it is not structured to be entertaining and I am often suspicious of memoirs that are structured to be page turners You might even get a little bored if you are looking for entertainment Also you might be tempted not to believe her story But as she travels to women s prisons, Deborah Jiang Stein finds many women who have had the experiences her first mother had of being forced to give birth in prison for crimes related to addiction This shit happens As an adoptive parent and as a recovering addict, the most pain I felt the places I cried were in Deborah s description of how sorry she felt was as her adoptive mother was dying The timeline is a bit hazy but it appeared that they had reconciled already Yet in her generous care of her mother in her dying days, Deborah just could not express enough regret As a mother, I wanted to forgive her myself as no doubt her mother did I already forgive my kids for a lot of attachment related rejections because I know that they didn t choose their circumstances, nor were their circumstances just However, as a recovering addict, I do not fully forgive myself for my clueless, heartless behaviors when I had my emotions and empathy buried under an ocean of alcohol and I thank God I didn t have kids at the time, but I did have parents and I did hurt them and I do feel tremendous remorse about that So I get how hard self forgiveness can be But I also found myself wishing that her mother had tried harder to understand Deborah s needs and especially had not kept the secrets from Deborah or tried to smother all questions with her love and her parental competence At the same time, her parents adopted Deborah without any benefit of generational hindsightAdoption research surveys indicate that not until the 1970 s didthan a thousand white families include adopted children of color My pioneering parents stretched beyond the margins to adopt me But whenever I asked my mother about my caramel colored skin and button nose, about the hint of an almond shape to my eyes, she d tell me she loved me and that I was one of the family I was too scared to eke out even one word to her in response, to tell her I didn t feel part of anything DJS My parents adopted my mixed race considered black brother at almost the same time in US history as Deborah was adopted, the 1960 s It was a time when being color blind was considered a virtue by those who disagreed that racism should be the standard way to sort humanity It was, in fact, a radical stance in opposition to legally sanctioned segregation Sadly for them, the children who were and still are transracially adopted in the US are the guinea pigs in a social experiment with unquantified results Those of us with hindsight, who want to dig deeper, have learned that color blindness is actually a sanitized form of racism If we say we do not see the color of others skin which we literally cannot ignore , then we are saying we do not see their differences therefore, we do not see them Rendering someone invisible will result in a failure of empathy that Deborah experienced from her loving, privileged parents That failure of empathy can lead to the diminishing response that transracial adoptees who express mixed feelings are bitter, ungrateful and unwelcome in any conversation about it Because of my personal experience and reflection, I was aware of these dynamics when we began our adoption journey but I really wanted to be a parent It was a fundamentally selfish impulse which is why I brush aside any kudos directed my way I tried to get pregnant a few times but I was at an age when fertility was not something to pursue at any length When I announced because I am the announcer that my husband and I would attempt to adopt locally and seek same race adoption, I ran into a world of problems that I won t go into for this review When I decided by default that transracial adoption would be acceptable, it felt a bit like making a deal with the devil I rationalized that I live in a new era, that I had learned lessons from my brother s and others adoptions, that I am not ideologically color blind and that I am willing to tell my children the truth as I know it the as I know it part being a major obstacle However, the results of the social experiment in which we attempt to reverse the wrongs done by previous adoption policies without reversing the actual policies is still pending results Maybe there is no way to get it right I really cannot know in the long term if my kids will be OK I read memoirs and to be honest, sometimes my greatest fear is that my kids will write memoirs that indicate my cluelessness Yes, the love will come through, but privileged cluelessness is impossible to completely eradicate As soon as we white adoptive parents think we have it figured out, we are guilty of hubris Perhaps the best we can hope for, embrace, accept is Deborah s conclusion about sorrowjoy, which really needs to be a word.Yes, I m happy today, and for no specific reason at all I m filled with joy If I m sad and sorrowful at times for whatever comes about, in the same moments I can feel contentment and find humor and joy Sorrowjoy, because if we sit still inside and let it in, they live together and we thrive DJSPreach it sistah

  2. says:

    In a system that treats drug addicts as criminals that incarcerates people struggling with addiction, instead of recognizing addiction as a complex disease and providing treatment injustice piles upon injustice The war on drugs has destroyed families, tearing parents and children apart To what end Prison Baby is the memoir of Deborah Jiang Stein, a woman born in prison Her mother was an incarcerated heroin addict Jiang Stein s memoir documents a difficult journey She begins with he In a system that treats drug addicts as criminals that incarcerates people struggling with addiction, instead of recognizing addiction as a complex disease and providing treatment injustice piles upon injustice The war on drugs has destroyed families, tearing parents and children apart To what end Prison Baby is the memoir of Deborah Jiang Stein, a woman born in prison Her mother was an incarcerated heroin addict Jiang Stein s memoir documents a difficult journey She begins with her childhood discovery of the circumstances of her birth a dark secret she was never meant to know She then details the devastation and trauma that stemmed from her early, state imposed separation from her mother which was compounded by the insufficient resources available to her and her well meaning adoptive family during her childhood Discovering the secret of her birthplace sent Jiang Stein into a near deadly cycle of self abuse that is painful to read about but important to understand We are often so quick to judge and condemn others when we don t understanding the context for another person s actions but context is everything The context Jiang Stein offers helps the reader make sense of her early life s senselessness the terrible decisions and choices she made, despite the love and support of her adoptive family, all painful reactions to her circumstances her feelings of being an outsider, an other in our society in so many ways and the weight of her secret about her prison system origins upon her young psyche, stunting her psychological and emotional development Ultimately, however, Jiang Stein s story is one of hope Her research into her history, her recovery from self abuse, her peacemaking with herself and her family, her service to others, and her personal healing all prove to matter very much They show that whatever our beginnings whatever our flaws and our burdens we can find contentment in life We can give up the If onlys and What ifs that break our hearts and crush our souls, instead coming to terms with our pasts and forging a new future Even for those who are so called hopeless cases, Jiang Stein implies, hope is possible Prison Baby is also a call for change Although much has improved about our penitentiary system since Jiang Stein spent her infancy within prison walls and was wrenched away from her devastated mother, there is still much work to be done It is heartening to see that Jiang Stein herself is engaged in crucial work with incarcerated women and girls But this work doesn t fix the system, either As such, her story shines a light on the fact that we still need better solutions to our society s problems with drug addiction and better ways of serving incarcerated women and girls

  3. says:

    This book started out good, then just got boring It s very short, and I still had to struggle to keep my attention on it The stories just sort of jump around and don t delve very deep, or ever get interesting before they just end and jump to something else You never really get invested in the characters or actions that are happening The end was so boring and lame that I had to fight to not just abandon it Some of it is just very unbelievable there s no way a baby under a year old is going This book started out good, then just got boring It s very short, and I still had to struggle to keep my attention on it The stories just sort of jump around and don t delve very deep, or ever get interesting before they just end and jump to something else You never really get invested in the characters or actions that are happening The end was so boring and lame that I had to fight to not just abandon it Some of it is just very unbelievable there s no way a baby under a year old is going to have memories and feelings from when she was in prison I mean, come on You expect me to believe you remember being in a crib in a prison Yeah, right

  4. says:

    This book was just Ok for me While I am very sympathetic to her issues from birth to age 3, I am inclined to say get over it to a lot of what she has gone through There are a few things that may be disheartening for sure I did feel her pain when she did not know what race she was and truly doesn t know with absolute certainty to this day That is unfortunate, but I am sure many adoptive children go through this It was a semi interesting story, but unfortunately, I did not feel like it had This book was just Ok for me While I am very sympathetic to her issues from birth to age 3, I am inclined to say get over it to a lot of what she has gone through There are a few things that may be disheartening for sure I did feel her pain when she did not know what race she was and truly doesn t know with absolute certainty to this day That is unfortunate, but I am sure many adoptive children go through this It was a semi interesting story, but unfortunately, I did not feel like it had enough substance fill up the number of pages that were in this book.This book was given to me through a goodreads giveaway

  5. says:

    If you like a Memoir book This would be a definite read, I am not all into them myself but I have to say this was probably one of the best I have ever read, you feel connected to the author and the story does not have a long drawn out boring story line like some I have read, In this story the things that Deborah goes through may somehow relate to some peoples lives or someone they know or have known.

  6. says:

    This is an absolutely riveting story I m surprised that anyone can be unmoved by it I m dazzled by the author s candor, grit, insight, fierceness, and just about everything else In addition to having written a memoir about her remarkable journey, having been born in prison and raised by adopted parents who didn t know how to talk to her about her past, she is a speaker in prisons and to law enforcement and social work people who deal with the prison population, through her non profit organiza This is an absolutely riveting story I m surprised that anyone can be unmoved by it I m dazzled by the author s candor, grit, insight, fierceness, and just about everything else In addition to having written a memoir about her remarkable journey, having been born in prison and raised by adopted parents who didn t know how to talk to her about her past, she is a speaker in prisons and to law enforcement and social work people who deal with the prison population, through her non profit organization, UnPrison Deborah Jiang Stein is an incredibly courageous, tough, smart, ferocious woman, who regularly deals with a group of people prisoners, and women prisoners whom most of us have the luxury to ignore I am filled with admiration for what she does, and for what she s done with her life and with the story she s had the dedication to craft and share with us And grateful she has opened my eyes to all of this

  7. says:

    This review is based on a copy I received through a Goodreads giveaway.Prison Baby is the memoir of Deborah Jiang Stein, who was born in prison to a mother who struggled with drug addiction She was subsequently adopted by a couple and accidentally discovered the circumstances of her birth during her childhood The book details many of the author s complex emotions and struggles that she experienced over the following years.This book starts out very strong The author s writing style helped me t This review is based on a copy I received through a Goodreads giveaway.Prison Baby is the memoir of Deborah Jiang Stein, who was born in prison to a mother who struggled with drug addiction She was subsequently adopted by a couple and accidentally discovered the circumstances of her birth during her childhood The book details many of the author s complex emotions and struggles that she experienced over the following years.This book starts out very strong The author s writing style helped me to really empathize with her emotions as a child She shares very honest, painful memories of her childhood The middle portion of the book was the weakest for me The author engages in many risky behaviors while dealing with her emotional pain, but I was left feeling like something was missing, or was glossed over, in this part of the book It just wasn t as complete for me as the chapters dealing with her childhood years The final portion of the book deals with the author s adult life and how she has learned to live with her personal challenges.Overall, a good read I admire the author for her frankness in discussing many deeply personal feelings she has experienced Her openness allows the reader a greater understanding of her struggles I wish the pace and tone of the entire book could have matched the beginning of the book If it had, I think it would appeal to a broader range of readers

  8. says:

    I really enjoy reading memoirs, but I would have enjoyed thisif it also provided a little information from experts on the impact of trauma in the early years and on Hep C I have seen memoirs that were able to include some of that information while still feeling like a memoir I had a really hard time with the parts at the end about Hep C There are so many misconceptions about it, and I felt like the sections on that will just add to the problem I think speaking out usually helps stigma, I really enjoy reading memoirs, but I would have enjoyed thisif it also provided a little information from experts on the impact of trauma in the early years and on Hep C I have seen memoirs that were able to include some of that information while still feeling like a memoir I had a really hard time with the parts at the end about Hep C There are so many misconceptions about it, and I felt like the sections on that will just add to the problem I think speaking out usually helps stigma, but I am not sure it will in this case.I loved this quote on grief..I had no idea how loss and pain, if grieved, could lead to contentment, even if it took twenty years to mourn I can t identify the exact moment it happened, when a vastness opened inside me like a torrent of warm summer rain and cleansed any doubts I held whether I could go on living with the sorrow Yes, I m happy today, and for no specific reason at all I m filled with joy If I m sad and sorrowful at times for whatever comes about, in the same moments I can feel contentment and find humor and joy Sorrowjoy, because if we sit still inside and let it in, they live together and we thrive

  9. says:

    A Powerful, Messy, yet warm Memoir Deborah holds nothing back, as an adopted child she finds herself seeking for information about her birth Mother after she Finds a letter showing that she was born in Prison.Sinking into years of crime and drugs, alienation from her loving adoptive Parents Finding information of her birth and of her mother seems to finally give her insight on her birth Mother, her adoptive parents and herselfA beautiful story of transformation into a Woman with strength, cour A Powerful, Messy, yet warm Memoir Deborah holds nothing back, as an adopted child she finds herself seeking for information about her birth Mother after she Finds a letter showing that she was born in Prison.Sinking into years of crime and drugs, alienation from her loving adoptive Parents Finding information of her birth and of her mother seems to finally give her insight on her birth Mother, her adoptive parents and herselfA beautiful story of transformation into a Woman with strength, courage and grace

  10. says:

    Ms Jiang Stein s story engrossed me from the moment I picked it up until the end I ready it in one sitting Deborah and her brother also adopted , were adopted in the 1960 s when there weren t many caucasian families with mixed race adopted children, and even fewer resources.I felt her emptiness, her sadness, and later, her ever growing distance and anger from her adoptive parents, especially her mother after she found the letter.I found myself internally yelling at her mother in the book t Ms Jiang Stein s story engrossed me from the moment I picked it up until the end I ready it in one sitting Deborah and her brother also adopted , were adopted in the 1960 s when there weren t many caucasian families with mixed race adopted children, and even fewer resources.I felt her emptiness, her sadness, and later, her ever growing distance and anger from her adoptive parents, especially her mother after she found the letter.I found myself internally yelling at her mother in the book to talk to her, explain what you can about her history, about who she is I know her adoptive mother felt she was protecting her then, but Deborah was fully aware of the physical differences between her and her family Ignoring them and pretending they didn t exist would only lead toangst for her.One particular incident that nearly set me off was when one of her classmates called her a nigger on the school bus The problem was, Deborah had no inkling what race she had in her at all She doesn t respond, but shoves the anger deeper inside herself When she gets home and her adoptive mother presses her about how her first day was, she finally tells her she still doesn t get it I yearn for her arms around me so I can fall apart against her chest, but I don t want to break down before my mother reaches out first I wish I could melt into her Into someone Anyone But I can t, don t know how She heaves a sigh like I ve forced her to talk about my race again All I want is a hug Also, all I want is to shove her into the wall But you re one of us, dear, and we love you, she says I gave up on the idea of ever having a mother I was on my own She s one of them, I thought White, and she won t understand pg 38 Deborah Jiang SteinThe older she gets, theDeborah rebels She causes trouble in school, is confrontational with her mother and delves into the world of drugs and alcohol She leaves home for college at 18 and quickly gets herself involved in toxic relationships, drug crimes andheavy usage It s not long before the school asks her to leave and she disappears for a few years into her own dysfunctional world.She comes back a few years later, after a harrowing incident, and stays with her uncle Peretz while she cleans up From here Deborah began picking up the pieces of her shattered life and commits to find out everything she could about her birth mother, and herself Her ability to finally reconcile with her adoptive family and find redemption makes this all thepowerful.I would recommend this book to anyone to read It is powerfully written and the author is brutally honest and holds nothing back Even if you aren t into memoirs, this is one you might want to consider FIVE STARS I happened to win a copy of this book in a Goodreads giveaway, and I consider it a blessing that I did

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