Wholly Unraveled: A Memoir



Sometimes All That It Takes To Start Over Is The Courage To Say You Will In Kathleen S Home, Red Jeans Were A Sin Parties Were Punishable With Violence Fear Was Part Of The Daily Norm Growing Up In A Catholic Cult, Under The Unforgiving Eye Of Her Abusive Father, Kathleen Knew From An Early Age That If She Were To Survive, She D Have To Do It On Her OwnBut When The Time Came To Escape, She Found Herself In A Damaging Spiral Of Self Destruction At Rock Bottom, And With Nowhere To Go, Kathleen Stepped Off A Bus In The Last Place She Ever Thought She D Find Peace A Remote Community In Rural Canada Spending A Year In Almost Complete Silence, Kathleen Feared This Experience Would Prove To Be Just Another Step In Her Unraveling Instead, With Her Demons Quieted, She Emerged With A Fresh Understanding Of Self, An Empowering New Purpose, And A Sense Of Worthiness That She Would Never Let Be Challenged Again Wholly Unraveled Is Keele Burgin S Gripping And Inspiring Journey Of Self Discovery And Of Finally Finding Her Voice Against Nearly Insurmountable OddsWholly Unraveled: A Memoir

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  • 278 pages
  • Wholly Unraveled: A Memoir
  • Keele Burgin
  • 19 September 2019

10 thoughts on “Wholly Unraveled: A Memoir

  1. says:

    This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers To view it, click here This was anFirst reads for March.This was such an odd reading experience on the one hand shocking descriptions of abuse leading to addiction and self destructive behaviour, on the other all the characters including the narrator are so one dimensional large parts of the book don t ring quite true.I couldn t get a grip of her family, was she the only child being abused and if so, why Why were the parents ok with the daughters going to parties but not with her wearing jeans Has the aut This was anFirst reads for March.This was such an odd reading experience on the one hand shocking descriptions of abuse leading to addiction and self destructive behaviour, on the other all the characters including the narrator are so one dimensional large parts of the book don t ring quite true.I couldn t get a grip of her family, was she the only child being abused and if so, why Why were the parents ok with the daughters going to parties but not with her wearing jeans Has the author come to any kind of understanding of her family dynamics One specific episode that bothered me was after she gets arrested for having a party in the neighbours house her punishment is confinement to the pool house So a legitimate crime she was actually arrested for gets this soft treatment, while wearing jeans gets her beaten with a stick Not saying it didn t happen this way, but some kind of explanation would have been interesting.And how did such a controlling family agree to send her away to college with no supervision I also didn t understand why she later chose to enter a different cult like environment Did she really overcome addiction by doing laundry in silence and being locked up in a cabin in the woods After the outburst with the priest I expected some kind of revelation that she was just running from one oppressive religion to another, but instead this is what shows her the way forward And why did her father never contact her to bring her back into the fold before she went to live in the Madonna House How did he even know he would find her there Ultimately a somewhat interesting read, but it left me with too many unanswered questions

  2. says:

    i was caught up in this book from page one. i read it in 2 days. took my kindle to bed with me, reading page after page under the covers. fell asleep with it. put most of life on hold today and just finished it. i saw so much of myself in her words..i admit, as others have reviewed and stated that there are so many parts of her story left unknowing. but those are her memories, stories and nightmares. i m sure they will make it to print for our hungry eyes at some point. but that s what i i was caught up in this book from page one. i read it in 2 days. took my kindle to bed with me, reading page after page under the covers. fell asleep with it. put most of life on hold today and just finished it. i saw so much of myself in her words..i admit, as others have reviewed and stated that there are so many parts of her story left unknowing. but those are her memories, stories and nightmares. i m sure they will make it to print for our hungry eyes at some point. but that s what i like about her, her random bits of reflection and which layers of the onion she decides to peel back for us. when i was reading her first moments of abuse, i noticed my body flush and my heart start to race, i was carrying the anxiety in me, thru her, thru me. it made me feelthan i thought. 5 stars all day, all night long. bravo for a brave womans voice thru vulnerability. i appreciate it.

  3. says:

    TRIGGER WARNING Detailed descriptions of child abuse and rape If these are triggers for you, think twice before reading this book.This book was extremely frustrating to read I understand that people do not remember every detail of their childhood, but when you are writing about it, you need to provide some reason for the things that happen The first section of the book is a series of unrelated incidents, connected only by the abuse meted out by Kathleen s father Kathleen is her birth name TRIGGER WARNING Detailed descriptions of child abuse and rape If these are triggers for you, think twice before reading this book.This book was extremely frustrating to read I understand that people do not remember every detail of their childhood, but when you are writing about it, you need to provide some reason for the things that happen The first section of the book is a series of unrelated incidents, connected only by the abuse meted out by Kathleen s father Kathleen is her birth name so she uses it through the book she does not explain how she comes to call herself Keele, nor does she explain how it is pronounced, which I found frustrating Although there are four girls in the family, and later twin boys, one of whom died as an infant apparently from SIDS but this is not discussed nor explained , Kathleen is the chosen scapegoat for the family She alone is beaten, whipped with a belt, made to sleep in the garage, etc And she alone is blamed for something that very likely was not her fault, and view spoiler her father shot at her twice and missed it is not clear whether he missed on purpose or if he was just a bad shot Considering how far he took her into the desert, it seems likely that he really did intend to kill her hide spoiler Her father was definitely mentally ill, and her mother was worse in a way because her own mental illness caused her to retreat to a world inside her head instead of protecting her children.After growing up in her father s Catholic cult I put it in quotation marks because obviously her father was not a Catholic priest, and he was the head of the cult , it seems ironic and contradictory that a different type of cult was where Kathleen ended up in an attempt to heal herself from her childhood trauma Apparently it worked, because in skimming through the Acknowledgements, she writes as if she has her life completely under control now and shares loving relationships with her children and friends It is not clear whether she maintains a relationship with any family members, although mention is made of one of her children accidentally meeting her fatherWhyshe would live in an area that would allow her father back into her life in any way, much less into her children s lives, is a complete mystery to me.I read this book because there are a few similarities between my childhood and Kathleen s As it turns out, despite the surface similarities, she and I have totally different personalities and we handled the situations in completely different ways I was rebellious and left home as soon as I could From the age of fourteen or so, my relationship with my father was almost nonexistent, even though we lived in the same house view spoiler And if my father had tried to shoot me like Kathleen s did, I would probably be in prison now because I have no doubt that I would have cut his throat while he slept Please note it is easy to say that now, when I am the same age my father was when he died I honestly can t say what I would have done if I was thirteen, the age Kathleen was when it happened hide spoiler Kathleen also left home and that was another question that was never answered Considering her father s hold on her, why did he let her go halfway across the country for college And why did Kathleen tell him where she was when she joined the cult in Canada She mentions writing to Shirley, their cook, who wasof a parent to her than either of her biological parents, so it s possible her father found out that Shirley was getting letters and forced her to reveal Kathleen s whereabouts But this is a question that should have been answered in the book Readers shouldn t have to guess.Initially I gave this book three stars but thinking about it as I wrote this review, I decided it only deserves two stars First of all, the graphic descriptions of child abuse and rape are unnecessary It s like watching a slasher movie that shows every blood spurt I don t want to see that, and I don t want to read about it Secondly, the book is very poorly edited A decent editor would have required Kathleen Keele to put her stories into context and to answer the questions that her readers would naturally have I seriously cannot recommend this book to anyone I got it as a Prime First Reads book and all I can say is I m glad it was free although it really isn t, because Prime certainly isn t free Read at your own risk

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    This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers To view it, click here Free fromas part of the March First Reads.The depictions of abuse are seriously rough and Kathleen s destructive behavior in the second section of the book is tough to watch But overall it s an uneven book How did she grow her life after leaving Madonna House What is her current relationship with Shirley With her siblings Her parents I read the acknowledgements just to see if there was some mention of her current life and if I could ascertain anything.How did you make it out How do Free fromas part of the March First Reads.The depictions of abuse are seriously rough and Kathleen s destructive behavior in the second section of the book is tough to watch But overall it s an uneven book How did she grow her life after leaving Madonna House What is her current relationship with Shirley With her siblings Her parents I read the acknowledgements just to see if there was some mention of her current life and if I could ascertain anything.How did you make it out How do you live now ARGH So many questions

  5. says:

    Keele Burgin went through a childhood that made mine look like 18 years at Disney World My father was an authoritarian Catholic man who always had to be right, and we children were little bundles of Original Sin that needed to be corrected and molded into good people But, he loved us He was consistent He played with us We just learned, or tried to learn not to push his buttons Keele s father was self righteous, vindictive and mean Her mother read frightened and submissive Keele acted out Keele Burgin went through a childhood that made mine look like 18 years at Disney World My father was an authoritarian Catholic man who always had to be right, and we children were little bundles of Original Sin that needed to be corrected and molded into good people But, he loved us He was consistent He played with us We just learned, or tried to learn not to push his buttons Keele s father was self righteous, vindictive and mean Her mother read frightened and submissive Keele acted out, rebelled and got kicked out She spent years self abusing and hating herself until she ended up at a remote retreat center where she was forced to reckon with her anger and hatred This book is a tough read But it made me think something When I was a kid, and things were bad at my house, and my parents were yelling and screaming at us at the tops of their lungs, and saying awful things, why didn t anyone ever say something, or come to our rescue Maybe it was because worse things were quietly going on in other houses

  6. says:

    This was a difficult read and left me with too many questionswhy why why I found it ironic that she ran away from the abuse in one cult to only then find herself seeking help in another I do understand everyone has their own journey and Kathleen s journey was a tragic onevery tragic I m giving 2.5 stars for the unclear writing and lack of connecting the dots.

  7. says:

    This was myFirst Reads pick for the month of March.I m honestly not sure how to feel about this book On one hand, it was an engrossing story that grabbed onto me and didn t want to let me go until I finished it On the other hand, there was so much self destruction and bouncing from one to cult to what sounded like another that I found myself getting annoyed Reading about her growing up was hard because she had no control over that Reading about her adult years was also hard because s This was myFirst Reads pick for the month of March.I m honestly not sure how to feel about this book On one hand, it was an engrossing story that grabbed onto me and didn t want to let me go until I finished it On the other hand, there was so much self destruction and bouncing from one to cult to what sounded like another that I found myself getting annoyed Reading about her growing up was hard because she had no control over that Reading about her adult years was also hard because she did At the end, I felt like we were told a half story A story about a horrible childhood that turned into a dreadful adulthood with many questions left unanswered I m glad that it sounds like she finally found peace I just wish she would have let us into that part of her life like she did the rest of it

  8. says:

    Totally engrossing but there s just too little resolution for the reader Researching the author after the fact, it seems she goes on to do absolutely incredible things which prove the most amazing self growth and healing But how How does she leave Toronto and accomplish all these things with no family or money Does she ever meet up with her siblings again Why does she take her son to meet her father Did she ever make amends with Logan What happened to Grace There are just so many holes t Totally engrossing but there s just too little resolution for the reader Researching the author after the fact, it seems she goes on to do absolutely incredible things which prove the most amazing self growth and healing But how How does she leave Toronto and accomplish all these things with no family or money Does she ever meet up with her siblings again Why does she take her son to meet her father Did she ever make amends with Logan What happened to Grace There are just so many holes that make it a struggle to have closure I kudos the author for sharing her horrible tale and hope she publishes an after note with some answers

  9. says:

    This is an unbelievable story of survival Kathleen, if you were here right now I d hug the heck out of you I wouldn t speak just hug because I have no words Again, unbelievable There aren t enough words to describe Kathleen s father Mean Too small a word Cruel Nope, not big enough Heartless If this were fiction, I d say, C mon, that would never happen But it s non fiction, and it did happen It s just incredibly cruel that a parent a dad could inflict so much pain on their c This is an unbelievable story of survival Kathleen, if you were here right now I d hug the heck out of you I wouldn t speak just hug because I have no words Again, unbelievable There aren t enough words to describe Kathleen s father Mean Too small a word Cruel Nope, not big enough Heartless If this were fiction, I d say, C mon, that would never happen But it s non fiction, and it did happen It s just incredibly cruel that a parent a dad could inflict so much pain on their child Kathleen s story is remarkable Congratulations That s all I ll say since I don t want to include a Spoiler Congratulations on surviving and living Thank you, Ms Burgin for allowing me to read this very raw and honest memoir that reveals glimpses into your life, a life that I cannot even imagine

  10. says:

    This is a gripping memoir, and I read it in about 24 hours The abuse, trauma and self destruction Kathleen Burgin writes about is vivid and shocking.The struggle for me is that it all feels a bit disjointed It s storytelling without a resolution I want to know how she moved from one phase of her life to the next, how she became an author, why she cut off ties with her whole family, etc I m not looking for a happy ending necessarily but just some type of closure on the story

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